If there is one thing I've learned through past experiences, it's that, while people can ADD TO your happiness, you can't rely on people TO MAKE you happy. Your happiness has to come from you, from your life, the things you do, have done, made and achieve/achieved.
The people in your life are a great additive and certainly make things better at times,
and they are necessary for a healthy balance in life, but if you expect all of your happiness to come from people, or one person, your going to find yourself unhappy, really fast, and your relationship doomed from the pressure and expectation.
Of course the people you love make you happy, but if that's the only source of happiness in your life, then I suggest you find a hobby fast.
Sometimes, in life there comes a point where you have to chose between doing something that makes you happy and being close to someone that makes you happy. It's tough. But ultimately, if you don't do the things that make you happy, then you've chosen against both, because one day, you might resent the someone you chose over the something.
If you love that someone and they love you back, that's not going to change and you should support each other in your endeavors. Just because your paths separate for a while, doesn't mean they won't come back together again, or even have little paths that connect them throughout the separation.
I'm working towards something that I need and want to do for me. I'm sad that if all goes well I'll have to move away from my life up here, but I can't abandon something that I want just because its going to put strain on my life and relationship. I'm not going to lie, I'm scared, but I have to try.
So, to answer the question that everyone keeps asking - the question that keeps making me doubt my decision - Joe and I will make it work. Long distance. Duh.
If all goes according to plan anyway. I can't get ahead f myself here ;)
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